In yoga we often talk about elevating our consciousness. We know that throughout our lives, there are moments when we have become more aware of things going on in ourselves or in our world. Those Aha! moments.
There is a yogic concept that has meant alot to me-- a definite Aha moment...
The idea of a seed containing all the information that it needs to become what it was meant to become. Think about that.
Take a moment to look at an apple (or other) seed. Consider how this little seed will become a full-grown tree producing delicious apples simply because it is written or coded within that seed. It isn't trying to become a lemon tree or a pine tree or a Sequoia. It couldn't! If it had our human capacities to try to change itself, it would be a miserable little seed going after a futile, ego-centered goal.
Think about this as a human being and that we also have a "seed"-- it is our creative source. When we go against our soul's purpose, as is coded within our seed, things do not flow, things come out sideways. Even our cleverness cannot fool the soul, although it might fool others and even yourself.....for awhile. This is when dis-ease sets in-- physically, mentally, spiritually.
The reason this is so remarkable is if you consider all the struggles we go through in our lives to find meaning and direction, to get out of our own way, to get to our flow or "in the zone" so that life will be easier and more meaningful. I'm not saying it isn't hard work if we're in that space, but there is a lot more ease and joy and much less inner conflict or obstacles to living our lives when we are.
This concept I understand through the mantra Har Haray Haree. Har refers to the seed; Haray the flow or growth; and Haree the manifestation of that seed.
I love this concept! Just being aware of this helps to see more clearly and motivates me to do the things I need to do to stay connected with that "seed" (Hint: it's about your ability to still yourself enough to listen from the inside and gain that inner peace. [See the “Happiness Is Your Natural State- a mantra” post]).
All of this does lead me to wonder though….. What about seedless fruit? Here's a video I found about it. Perhaps I won't be going for that convenience any longer. What do you think about all of this?
"Happiness is your natural state." -GuruMeher, in his book Senses of the Soul.
I define happiness as a baseline of inner peace. A space where you have total equanimity no matter what the tides bring in. Happiness is not all flowery and giddy smiles and like everything is a party. Sometimes there could be anger and sadness, and still there is happiness.
This might be easier to understand in the opposite state: Sometimes on the outside you appear happy-- and might actually be feeling happy in a moment, for instance during a celebration or having met a goal --but inside, you don't actually feel peaceful, you might feel as if you are only projecting a fake happy. How's that?
"Happiness is your natural state". Why is this a good mantra? We don't always pay attention to our emotions when they alert us, and emotions are our friends. They are there specifically to guide us, just like our sense of touch guides us away from the hot stove. Repeat the mantra to help you remember: whenever you find yourself in a state of feeling Not Happy, or that state of inner peace is disturbed or not to be found, ask yourself: "What am I feeling?" Knowing that happiness is your natural state, then “not happy” means you have something to check in on.
Respect the senses, identify your emotions. They will always lead you toward the right path.
A kriya for releasing your emotional patterns and programming:
Working on your frontal lobe helps you release stuck negative emotional memory-- or the patterns and programming from your childhood and into adulthood that harden and form your personality. Negative emotions get lodged in the body creating physical pains while the patterns and programming harden in the frontal lobe. Try this kriya below to help relax and loosen that stuck emotional memory.
Here’s a great article relating to this: Kundalini Yoga and the Frontal Lobe : Navigating Overwhelming Emotions.
When you interview for a job, a common question asked is: what are your shortcomings? Interview coaches will use the example of perfectionism as “a positive shortcoming”. While it’s considered a fault, it also sounds like you strive for better. How is that really a fault?
Seth Godin recently put out a post called “On feeling incompetent” (--it’s worth reading!). At some point, we get tired of feeling incompetent. This is where I found myself.
I was anxious over the quality of my work-- or of me. While I didn’t realize I felt incompetent, I felt like my work was not good enough, even though people supported and praised the work I did. Could they not see the faults in my work?
This feeling made it very difficult to pursue my work with any consistency. I would have bursts of feeling productive and profound, followed by a lot of debilitating, “I have no idea what I am doing. I’ll never make it.“.
I wanted my work to be perfect. My problem wasn’t lack of talent or skills; my problem was that my need to perfectly think through every possible angle was insatiable. This was highly unproductive and a waste of time and energy. And I was tired of feeling incompetent....though it pushed me at last to change.
Perfection may perhaps be necessary in certain types of work like creating tools for safety such as designing a seatbelt. But for most, perfectionism is not at all helpful. Good enough is a lot better than you think. It has been said that bringing a bit more wisdom-- just a mere 1% --to the person seeking your message or service is all that is necessary to make a difference.
So is perfectionism truly a fault? While I might have made sufficient contributions in my past work, I feel it safe to say that I could have brought a lot more value and had a lot more fun then, without the bondage of perfectionism to which I was shackled.
Last Sunday in my kids yoga classes, we became gardeners-- or rather, we figured out that we are gardeners already......of our individual gardens called Self. To take care of that "Self", we eat healthy, drink water, get sun, sleep, eliminate, brush teeth, play, do yoga, etc. Another main component of a healthy garden: Love. When we chant or sing in yoga class, this is a radiant way for us to infuse Love into our gardens.
Then we got our hands dirty and learned from our Master Gardener how to grow microgreens, starting with rooting ourselves with a grounding chant. What a treat to see the children planting themselves metaphorically and then delve into the whole microgreen-gardening work. The kids wisely chimed in with gardening tips, showing us clearly that they know how to care for plants!
We began with the soil. We know: a healthy soil needs nutrients and oxygen, water and sun, and a well-maintained microbiome free of harmful stressors. This soil provides the infrastructure to support and nurture plants which in turn provides oxygen for our Earth and all living beings. This activity got them involved in every aspect of planting from preparing the soil, to watering, to planting the seeds in a special way involving pressure from their hands. In a couple weeks, we will harvest together with the kids and taste the fruits of our labor. It will surely be delicious with the extra kid-love poured in!
Mamas, consider that WE are the soil for our children-- who are like our plants. And our body’s microbiome is influenced by external inputs such as our diet, the environment, and stress factors on our physical-spiritual-emotional well-being. (Dads, this applies to you as well yet I focus this writing on our maternal nature--the nurturing, mothering side of all of us).
Do we provide healthy soil to support and nurture our children? In order to BE healthy soil in which our little ones can set roots and from which they can grow and blossom, consider how a gardener tends her land: with love, wisdom, attention. So, we parents must tend our own lands so that our kids can grow strong and connected, and in turn, bless our world with their fruits, their gifts.
This is called self-care. Essential for mamas. Essential for All.
What does this look like for you? Is your soil rich or depleting of nutrients? Is this something you’ve consciously built into your life, to consistently tend to the foundations of your growing garden? Do you make time to water, feed and weed? Or do you struggle with putting your own care first? Do you feel supported in caring for your soil…..your soul….. YOU?
As moms, our gardening is often focused directly on the plants themselves-- our beautiful children. It can be hard to see below the surface that issues most often lay in the health of the soil, the health of our own Self. We know how important the soil is for our trees and our Earth. As is the macrocosm, so is the microcosm. Treat all with loving care, and begin with you.
Need help with your self-care plan? Don’t know where to start? Click here for a mudra-in-motion mantra meditation to call upon your nurturing, strong, divine feminine energy, or your Mother Power: the Adi Shakti mantra. For consult, reach out to me or find a coach or mentor with whom you resonate.
The plants we nurture from our own healthy soil help us to breathe, and all, in turn, create and inspire healthier gardens for a peaceful Earth.
This yoga and meditation stuff really goes to your head. And your heart. And your gut. And every part of your body and organs. And your circulatory system. And your nervous system! It is the reason I am so passionate about sharing this technology —specifically kundalini yoga— with anyone who seeks to uplift their lives.
This practice wants you to act, to serve, to be your next BEST self. It helps you to KNOW that you want this too.
So when that realization hit for me, I went ahead and became my best self. Yes, it's that easy. You can just realize this and decide to be your next best self .
It’s called shifting your thoughts, and it makes a vibrational impact on your psyche. Decide you will be a better version of yourself. Right. Now.
Vibrate the Cosmos and the Cosmos will clear your way.
-one of the 5 sutras of the Aquarian Age, Yogi Bhajan
Your shifts will likely give way to your old habits and it will feel disappointing. Here’s the key: Commit to it. And also decide to commit to a regular practice that keeps you fueled. Kundalini yoga is like driving with premium gas in your car as well as having the upgraded model, personally designed with YOU in mind. This is the vehicle for your Soul, suited to who you truly are. Feed it well. .
With commitment to, and compassion for, yourself by carving out time for your DAILY practice and showing up even when you feel like the world is conspiring against you, you will find that harnessing the ups and downs gets you closer to the day when you will feel authentically in your better Self .
Decide. Commit. Live your truth. Sat nam.
I am not a very generous person.
It’s not because I am unkind or uncaring or lack compassion. It’s just something I know I need to work on.
As a yoga and meditation teacher, this quality runs contrary to what I know.
Communities bring us joy, keep us safe, connect us to a world beyond ourself, help us to band together for a common cause…. and they can be quite demanding! Volunteer time, bring a potluck dish, organize something, share something, DO something and add a flurry of dates in your calendar for them. Sure, you can just show up to what you want and skip all the rest— as Woody Allen says, “Showing up is 80% of life”. But that is a great way to find yourself on the periphery of the community and not truly reaping the benefits for which you “bother” anyway. Then why bother? Do we really need a tribe?
As a parent especially, where “it takes a village” of which we no longer have in modern life, our communities are our life source, our support staff, our cheerleaders, and our inspirations. From childcare to healthcare to sharing of general wisdom to more sets of eyes guarding my family, yes, these are tribes worth having. Tribes "to bother" for. Tribes we get to GIVE for.
There is something magical about the idea of giving to receive. You hear it — "give and the Universe will give back plenty-fold".
This is how community works. But it’s not really about the quantity of your giving. It’s about the energy of your giving. You can force yourself to volunteer, bend over backwards for the sake of trying, donate time and money and be internally pissy about it and find you are not receiving back. Where’s the magic? Where’s the return on your investment?
It’s in your energy. Whether it’s drained you or lifted you, what you give is what you get.
Volunteer time and (any great or ordinary) skills that you have with a grateful attitude because this community means something to you. Give because you share values. Give with heart. Give because this feels worth the time you’re carving out in your busy life. Read that last sentence again in case you opted out in the first sentence because of the “time you (don’t) have”. This point means you are making the time because it’s necessary for your own life stability and growth and return on investment, in addition to the enrichment of your community.
Give for what matters. And decide that people matter. Each of us are worth the time and energy for our tribe(s). And you will receive plenty-fold back. You will receive LIFE.
I am a mama, an intentional storyteller, a celestial communicator, a spiritual teacher, and a lover of stories of all kinds, in all forms. I write about parenting, natural health options, mind-body-soul connections, and anything that elevates our lives.